How to Stop Hurting Yourself and Live a Better Life

A simple thought to help you make life more meaningful.

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Remove the judgment, and you have removed the thought ‘I am hurt’: remove the thought ‘I am hurt’ and the hurt itself is removed. — Marcus Aurelius

Samir, a friend, had had enough.

For months, the parent company of the startup where he was CEO thwarted all his efforts to scale it up. It was time for him to move on to something better.

While searching for his next pursuit, Samir also wanted to hire and train a Head of Business to run the startup. When he felt she was ready, he would hand over the reins and quit.

It was a noble thought. But we tried to convince him against it for three reasons.

First, the parent company had neglected the startup for quite some time. Nobody knew what its future plans were. So we reasoned that Samir’s suggestion would fall on deaf ears (“Why do we need a Head of Business?”).

This would frustrate him further.

Second, even if his bosses agreed, Samir would create a job profile with skills similar to his. And clearly, the parent company didn’t value his skills. So…