…e are waaaay more of us who carry it on into our actual relationships and keep it going there, too. Except, in that space, we call it “love,” with it postured as though it’s “loving” — we’re all so quick to smile and nod and accept it as such — but it’s not. It’s just a bad violati…
Real life experience:
She‘d chide me in public about my physique and dressing sense frequently. When I told her I didn’t like it, she said she did it because she was my “most constructive critic” and would say things that nobody else would tell me, and that I didn’t ‘appreciate’ what she did for me because I only wanted to hear nice things about myself from people.